Wednesday, December 17, 2014

I wish for you...

A day has come that I (and so many others) have long waited for... my friends Charles and Myron are getting married. Legally! For real!
Now, they're doing a very informal wedding day. Basically signing the papers and boom, you're done! Charles is in school, it's Christmas season and everyone is way too busy to do a huge wedding. So, they'll have celebrations later, probably after Charles gets out of school. But, it's still a wedding. I don't care how elaborate or how small... it's a moment of wonder.
For someone you've known since Kindergarten, saying Best Wishes just doesn't cover it. So, I came up with a list of things I wish for their marriage:
1. that you love and respect one another all your days. Love without respect isn't really love.
2. that you get an equal amount of saucers and teacups for your showers (if you have them). Because what the Hell was I supposed to do with 11 saucers and 9 teacups? Really?
3. that you go to bed mad sometimes. Because, seriously, when you're mad at each other, you don't need to add sleepy-cranky to the fight.
4. that you don't hyphenate your names. I love you both dearly, but I've tried out the combo of your last names. To me, they sound like a rare neurological disorder that people burst into tears as the doctor describes it to them. But, if you do, it will make it easier to fit on your Christmas card envelope, so I won't really complain either way.
5. that you both continue to be the unique people you are. I know you've been together for ages, but sometimes when people get married, they kind of morph into one person. Like Samneric from Lord of the Flies. Only more boring. You two are awesome together, and you're awesome apart, so keep your personalities.
6. that you realize how blessed you are. Neither of you will EVER have a PMS meltdown on the other. Do you even know how much that is worth in a relationship?? Gold, pure gold, that's what it's worth. You will save a fortune in chocolate and Kleenex. Chances are you will also never have to suffer through a Hallmark movie marathon. Pure. Gold.
7. that you never forget to show each other how much you mean to one another. A huge gift on an anniversary will never mean as much as the chicken soup you bring home when they're sick. Or the cute note left on the bathroom mirror. Or, even something as small as a hug on the bad days. Those are the true gifts.
8. And, speaking of gifts... I wish for you to never forget your anniversary, birthday, etc. 'Cause I think even a couple of guys would get miffed over that stuff. So, yeah... I'm wishing you both memory and excellent gift-picking skills.

That's all I can think of for now. Except of course, the wishes I've always had for you both. The wishes that I wished for you when you were "shacking up" extend to your marriage. Joy, understanding, love, hugs, friendships, great travels and wonderful food. So far, you're doing great on those. Keep it up!

Love & Kisses (and visions of me standing with you as your flower girl today, wearing my Wonder Woman Tutu),

Emily

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